Yesterday, I was expecting to see another televised wedding. Disappointed, I went on the Internet to quell my curiosity about the Grace Kelly swan(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Swan_%28film%29) look-alike marrying the all-time bachelor of the Monaco royal family.
When my expectations were not met, I found photos which got me thinking about men marrying their mothers.
There is a psychological theory that men marry their mothers, or maybe they marry their mothers and fathers. I once heard in a psychology class that a man and woman sharing intimacy is really like four people in bed since each one brings their parents to a relationship.
Men are often attracted to the physical type that their mother is– because that's the physical image of the woman they grew up with. The theory is that you try to create a home life with your spouse that is close to the home life you grew up in.
Unconsciously there is more than meets the eye. Let's assume a man marries a woman who doesn't act or look like his mother and has a completely different personality than his–this is what is known as our 'sexual personality'.
In relationships that flounder, when a couple seeks counseling, it is highly likely that a discovery will be made; that both parties will have the same, or at least very similar sexual personalities. As problems arise the couple need to understand why a clash is happening. It is likely that these similarities are the cause of the marital conflict. Only when this is understood can there be a more free-flowing understanding and/or tolerance of one another's behavior.
Who needs "popular"? Thought provoking and discussion much more interesting.
ReplyDeleteMaybe with boys and Mums, it's more that Mums want there sons to marry a cloned Mum.
My daughter and I are very close and maybe, just maybe she looked for a man similar to me as a partner. Well I'm really easy to get along with.
There was a story in the English press last week, where a prospective mother-in-law criticised her sons choice fiancee on line and tweeter. The fiancee was nothing like the mother.
As far as the Monaco Principality (not a Kingdom) wedding goes. Why would a young attractive woman want to marry a womanising philanderer? How long will it last?